Research Memo

 

           

Research Memo

 

While doing my project I asked a few of questions that concerned the feelings of the children. Some of the questions I ask were, do you think it your fault while your parents split up? How do u feel about your parents splitting up? My questions are mostly targeted for towards teens because that’s when they really experience this situation. In today’s society single parents is starting to develop into a big problem in America. This issue is mainly with their children divorce or split parents can affect the child in many ways but now day’s parents don’t seem to see or understand that. We as a nation, as a state, and as a community need to form organizations to help keep families together. I feel this can affect children in many ways such as behavior, agony and much more. This will erupt into bigger problems when the child gets older like for instance abusive relationships. We need to fix this problem before it gets out of hand.

 

My target audience is teens and I pick this age group because they are the ones who go through the stage the most. When kids are babies they really don’t go through the pain like the teens do because they don’t know what is going on but in reality teens can comprehend and understand what is happening to their parents and their relationship. I feel like there are parents out there that wants to keep their families together but they just run out of options they can possible think of they also deep down inside don’t want to hurt their kids at all.

 

During my research my results showed numerous amounts of things. Teens really thought that it was there fault why their parents’ divorce. Some people even said they don’t want there parents to get back together and some said they know there parents could have done something to stay together. Others said they hate the other parent for leaving.

 

My conclusion basically is parents should work harder to keep their families together and stop giving up because given up won’t get you nowhere far in life. We need to start and organization for parents to get together and talk about their issues so they can work through them together and not on their own when they know they can’t handle it by them.

 

Exploratory Essay

 

Does a Divorce parent Affect Their Children

 

            I feel like a divorce parent affects children in a way because you cannot live without both parents. It usually turns out to be a constant battle between both parents. They mainly fight for custody of their child; some parents also take it to the next step which would be to put the parent who isn’t takeing care of the kid on child support which in this case mean the parent would be paying a certain amount of money each month and if he or she is behind on the payments they can eventually go to jail.

            Also arguing and constant court dates can affect the child also. I say this because as a little kid seeing your parents act like this can change your thinking and perspective of things. You will start to thinking all kinds of things like for instance is it you fault, why won’t that stop fighting, why won’t they stop arguing and as a child not old enough to understand u start to take the blame and guilt.

            It can also affect the kid because you need both parents to learn different ways of thinking and life. If you were raised by a single dad you wouldn’t learn how to love, because most dads don’t show love they show there kid how to fight, how to be fearless, and to show no mercy for anybody. This can lead to numerous behavior problems in school and out of school.

            Also not having a parent in your life can lead to abusive relations. Not having that parent in your life can cause you a lot of life lessons that you were never taught and will never get the chance to learn until u grow up and learn the hard way.

            We can help decrease the number of divorces or split parents by creating a family and marriage counseling. Which in this case they can sit down and come together and talk about the problems they have both as a parent and their marriage. Therefore this can keep the family together and nobody will be hurt.

            Doing some research I found a great article on ebschohost.I found an article on divorce parents and it explains how kids react to their parents splitting up and it basically states that divorce parents affect their kids behavior problems because they cant speak or express their feelings and their only way they know how to get them our or get attention is to be bad. Some people might not understand why kids behave the way they do sometimes its just there life at home and if you just sit down with that child and tell him its ok to talk you will find a lot about that child’s life. You will find a lot of pain and hurt has been building up in that kid for so long that all he needed was someone to talk to.

            As my research continues I plan to work on a better solution to bring parents closer together so they won’t fight and argue. I will find another way for parents to fix the broken pieces in their relationship so they won’t affect the kid. Parents will learn how to communicate and love each other better.