Hostility is One Affect

One of the behavior problems that can be generated when parents’ divorce, is hostility. Hostility is an umbrella term for various hostile emotions including anger, wrath and resentment. Although there may be a multitude of reasons why some children become hostile after their parents’ divorce according to Melinda Smith, M.A., Jocelyn Block, M.A., Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., and Gina Kemp, M.A., this feeling mainly arises because they feel as though you are removing their sense of peace and normalcy. Hostility also might arise because the child feels that the parent who leaves him and is no longer around is abandoning him.

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A large number of studies conducted during the past three decades have shown that children with divorce parents have an elevated risk of a variety of problems, including conduct disorders, emotional disturbances, Difficulties with social relationships and academic failure.

 

Divorce clearly increases the risk that children will suffer from psychological and behavioral problems. Troubled children are particularly likely to develop problems with anger, disobedience, and rule violations. School achievement also can suffer. Other children become sad for prolonged periods of time. They may become depressed, anxious, or become perhaps overly responsible kids who end up caring for their parents instead of getting cared for by them

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For children, divorce can be stressful, sad, and confusing. At any age, kids may feel uncertain or angry at the prospect of mom and dad splitting up. As a parent, you can make the process and its effects less painful for your children. Helping your kids cope with divorce means providing stability in your home and attending to your children's needs with a reassuring, positive attitude. It won't be a seamless process, but these tips can help your children cope.

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"Kids caught between two hostile or separating Parents are the ones who are going to get hurt by a divorce," said Guthrie, 41, who has three children from two marriages. "Until I saw the video, read the notes, read the case studies, I did not know about it from their perspective. It really makes you grasp what the kids are going through."