Im Just Like You Poem

I’m Just Like You What’s the day like when the dark clouds don’t let the sun through is it the same reason you run and I run to what’s a car like driving without nobody behind the wheel is it going to crash and be another piece of steel that’s how your life will be if you don’t take control. I feel the same pain you do and its taking a toll on our life so I think why fight but we both know that at the end of the tunnel there’s a light for you and me we can’t always win every fight so we have to be the bigger man and think about the opportunities once or twice and when we blow up like fireworks people will respect the young men we become on earth I’m scared to show my even when I don’t know how to deal with it sometimes I want to fast-forward or rewind my life but it skips and I pray to god I hope I don’t miss another second my mother told me my life was like a blessing and best believe I’m trying to correct it but you have to watch who your around because people try to wreck it and I feel like the devil got me by the throat and the neck life is a girl it cheated on me but I married it and I know you miss your dad like I miss my mom but we have to our weakness as our strengths and try to move on

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Research for Documentary People do not really seem to care how divorce parents can really affect a kid’s life. Kids go through tremendous pain and agony seeing their parent’s fights and argue for nothing. Parents sometimes care because they don’t want their kid seeing them like that because kids tend to grow up and do what their see their parents do. Kids tend to build up stress and not let their feelings show until it gets too much to handle some kids tend to build up suicidal thoughts because they feel like nobody is listening to them or they just don’t care which in this case it’s a do and don’t situation. As we all know divorce is a big issue in the United States. Between 43% and 50% of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce says the (Census Bureau in 2004). It also says that almost about 50 % of the children will experience their parents’ divorce (National Center of Health Statistics in 2008). Given the large number of families affected by divorce each year parents, clinicians, and policymakers alike are concerned with understanding how experiencing parental divorce affects their children. The first extreme position holds that the long-term effects of divorce on children are quite debilitating and that children carry a lasting negative burden and hurt years after their parents’ divorce I terms of mind and mental health and interpersonal relationships. As they grow this hurt and pain tend to carry out in their relationships long after they have grown up and lived on their own for a while. Some relationships can be abusive and some relationships can be a lot of fighting from both sides. As a result of this what children see and hear when their little between their parents is what they will do when they grow up. If their parents had an abusive relationship then they will grow up and be abusive but there is always a solution to this problem. We know as a community and as a state we can’t stop everything from happening but we can come together and help generate ways to keep things that we can help from getting out of hand like for instance the statistics shows that children tend to grow up and do what their parents so if one parent is abusive then their children will be abusive in relationships so we can help make classes where people and children can help come and get their feelings out and just talk about what they see in their parents relationship. Building a relationship in a family is one of the key factors to having a successful family. It helps the family builds trust and communication which causes less stress between the families. Also if his family is not really close it tends to affect their children in everyday life such as school and social life. During the past several decades, the benefits of parents' and other family members' involvement in children's education have been well-documented. Although it isn't the only factor in improving student learning, 30 years of research has consistently linked family involvement to higher student achievement, better attitudes toward school, lower dropout rates, and increased community support for education, as well as many other positive outcomes for students, families, and schools (Henderson & Mapp, 2002). When families are involved in learning, the research shows, "students achieve more, regardless of socioeconomic status, ethnic/racial background, or the parents' education level" (Antunez, 2000). "In the best of all possible worlds," write Adams and Christenson (2000), "the family-school relationship would be based not only on two-way communication, cooperation, and coordination, but also on collaboration". The 2001 reauthorization of the Elementary and Secondary Education Act (ESEA), No Child Left behind (NCLB), signals a move in that direction. The inclusion of several new provisions related to family involvement reflect the gradual shift in U.S. educational policy and practice from viewing parents as important players to full partners in the formal education of their child. Parents do not see our hurt and our pain but the world can see it through our social life and through school. It affects everywhere you think it won’t. We are human just like our parents and we have feelings just like our parents.

Academic Summary

Richard Cherry Ms. McKoy English 2 1-Block 11 April 2013 Max Sugar argues that one or more out of every three marriages in the United States end in divorce evolving numerous children. He claims that the result in a broken home by divorce may be similar to the death of a parent, affecting the emotional growth and development of children. Max Sugar claims that attention is focused here on the confusion in parents and children, their projection and compensation for guilt feelings, retaliations by the use of the children. Sugar agrees that divorce draws attention to the principles, while some needs of their children may be overlooked. Max Sugar second claims states that a number of authors have described such various untoward effects of paternal and material deprivation as childhood depression, neurosis, suicide, or delinquency. Ma Sugar claims that no one specific model applies to all progeny of broken homes. The results depend on the child’s sex, age at the time of the divorce. In a series of 90 consecutive patients evaluated, in the child –adolescent Psychiatry. Outpatient clinic of Louisiana state University Medical center, 26 or 28%, had divorced parents and only three ha parents who were contemplating divorce. Among those with divorce parents 12 kids parents where divorce months prior to that. Max Sugar claim that by the time a divorce is actively on template and becomes a public legal fact, the parents have usually been emotionally divorced for some time, during which the anxiety of the rest of the family may be overlooked.

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Research Memo

 

           

Research Memo

 

While doing my project I asked a few of questions that concerned the feelings of the children. Some of the questions I ask were, do you think it your fault while your parents split up? How do u feel about your parents splitting up? My questions are mostly targeted for towards teens because that’s when they really experience this situation. In today’s society single parents is starting to develop into a big problem in America. This issue is mainly with their children divorce or split parents can affect the child in many ways but now day’s parents don’t seem to see or understand that. We as a nation, as a state, and as a community need to form organizations to help keep families together. I feel this can affect children in many ways such as behavior, agony and much more. This will erupt into bigger problems when the child gets older like for instance abusive relationships. We need to fix this problem before it gets out of hand.

 

My target audience is teens and I pick this age group because they are the ones who go through the stage the most. When kids are babies they really don’t go through the pain like the teens do because they don’t know what is going on but in reality teens can comprehend and understand what is happening to their parents and their relationship. I feel like there are parents out there that wants to keep their families together but they just run out of options they can possible think of they also deep down inside don’t want to hurt their kids at all.

 

During my research my results showed numerous amounts of things. Teens really thought that it was there fault why their parents’ divorce. Some people even said they don’t want there parents to get back together and some said they know there parents could have done something to stay together. Others said they hate the other parent for leaving.

 

My conclusion basically is parents should work harder to keep their families together and stop giving up because given up won’t get you nowhere far in life. We need to start and organization for parents to get together and talk about their issues so they can work through them together and not on their own when they know they can’t handle it by them.

 

Exploratory Essay

 

Does a Divorce parent Affect Their Children

 

            I feel like a divorce parent affects children in a way because you cannot live without both parents. It usually turns out to be a constant battle between both parents. They mainly fight for custody of their child; some parents also take it to the next step which would be to put the parent who isn’t takeing care of the kid on child support which in this case mean the parent would be paying a certain amount of money each month and if he or she is behind on the payments they can eventually go to jail.

            Also arguing and constant court dates can affect the child also. I say this because as a little kid seeing your parents act like this can change your thinking and perspective of things. You will start to thinking all kinds of things like for instance is it you fault, why won’t that stop fighting, why won’t they stop arguing and as a child not old enough to understand u start to take the blame and guilt.

            It can also affect the kid because you need both parents to learn different ways of thinking and life. If you were raised by a single dad you wouldn’t learn how to love, because most dads don’t show love they show there kid how to fight, how to be fearless, and to show no mercy for anybody. This can lead to numerous behavior problems in school and out of school.

            Also not having a parent in your life can lead to abusive relations. Not having that parent in your life can cause you a lot of life lessons that you were never taught and will never get the chance to learn until u grow up and learn the hard way.

            We can help decrease the number of divorces or split parents by creating a family and marriage counseling. Which in this case they can sit down and come together and talk about the problems they have both as a parent and their marriage. Therefore this can keep the family together and nobody will be hurt.

            Doing some research I found a great article on ebschohost.I found an article on divorce parents and it explains how kids react to their parents splitting up and it basically states that divorce parents affect their kids behavior problems because they cant speak or express their feelings and their only way they know how to get them our or get attention is to be bad. Some people might not understand why kids behave the way they do sometimes its just there life at home and if you just sit down with that child and tell him its ok to talk you will find a lot about that child’s life. You will find a lot of pain and hurt has been building up in that kid for so long that all he needed was someone to talk to.

            As my research continues I plan to work on a better solution to bring parents closer together so they won’t fight and argue. I will find another way for parents to fix the broken pieces in their relationship so they won’t affect the kid. Parents will learn how to communicate and love each other better.

Hostility is One Affect

One of the behavior problems that can be generated when parents’ divorce, is hostility. Hostility is an umbrella term for various hostile emotions including anger, wrath and resentment. Although there may be a multitude of reasons why some children become hostile after their parents’ divorce according to Melinda Smith, M.A., Jocelyn Block, M.A., Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., and Gina Kemp, M.A., this feeling mainly arises because they feel as though you are removing their sense of peace and normalcy. Hostility also might arise because the child feels that the parent who leaves him and is no longer around is abandoning him.